On Getting Advice from Friends

ImageWhen we are in trouble, I think it is natural for us to want to discuss things with our friends. We bare our hearts and our deepest secrets, then say four words “what do you think?”  We have just opened the floor, given permission to people outside of our problem to give their opinions and we hear it from all angles, things you never even thought of, motives assigned to your (mate,friend, boy or girl friend,etc), motives that they may have never thought of! Do you remember the old song “Walk a mile in my shoes”? This means that unless a person has gone through exactly the same thing you are, there is no real way they can identify with it, and even if they have faced the same type problem, the people involved are going to have different personalities or points of view and there is no way it is going to be exact. All you will get is more confused, because everyone seems so sure that their solution is the right one and suddenly you are turning in circles not knowing which end is up!  I prayed before I sat down to write this and asked God to give me something that someone specifically needed, right now, an answer for a person that was facing a dilemma. If that is you, then please let me know that this helped because this is what I got. When you are in trouble or have a problem, don’t go to any and every one of your friends and ask that question, pick one person that you know is a praying person, maybe someone out of your immediate circle that will have no prejudice concerning the people involved. You also run the risk of being repeated over and over again, the more people you tell the more gets told, even when you say “Please don’t tell”, remember that everyone has a “best friend” someone they trust completely, that in turn has a best friend and on it goes. The next step in crisis should actually be the first step, that is to take your burden to the Lord and leave it there! Look in the Bible, go to the concordance and search for a key word that best describes how you feel and see what scriptures are listed so that you can look them up! When we go through periods of deep distress..it is wise, in fact it is biblical not to surround ourselves with people, no matter how well-meaning they might be. Solitude is essential. Silence is necessary. Words from others will, as I already said, distract. Stay in the Lord’s presence and see His mind during this painful time. In the soul-searching of our lives, we are to stay quiet so we can hear Him say all that He wants to say to us in our hearts! I know that if I try to say something to my dad, I have to turn down the TV or radio and make everyone get quiet because the background noise keeps him from being able to hear, it is the background noises in our life that make God’s voice obscure, so quiet that we think He is not speaking at all. Sometimes He is just telling us something that we don’t want to hear, but we need to be able to make that choice with a clear knowledge of what He is saying to us. Psalm 5:11 Let all who take refuge in You be glad! Why do these things happen to us? 1Peter 4:12-13 Friends, when life gets really difficult, don’t jump to the conclusion that God isn’t on the job. Instead, be glad that you are in the very thick of what Christ experienced. This is a spiritual refining process, with glory just around the corner. He knows what you are facing and He can help. To find out how Jesus is able to identify with us, read Hebrews 4:14-16 Now that we know what we have—Jesus, this great High Priest with ready access to God—let’s not let it slip through our fingers. We don’t have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He’s been through weakness and testing, experienced it all—all but the sin. So let’s walk right up to him and get what he is so ready to give. Take the mercy, accept the help. God loves you and, even though I don’t know WHO you are, I have the love of the Lord for you, that is why I am here!

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