I’m Sorry :-(

IMG_1332There are two words in our language that when put together can bring a modicum of peace, but they are so difficult to say that it isn’t often that you hear them! I have tried to change that in myself so I am here to make a confession today. I totally judged someone as a thief and I have to apologize for it! I judged that the possums or raccoons were the thief’s who were stealing my garbage and leaving a mess on the porch! This morning, the truth was out! I caught Mr. Squirrel red-handed! Busted!

Two things were stressed in our home, don’t judge people, and the thing that would get my bottom spanked, would be repeating something I was not supposed to repeat. Talk about a church member? That was almost the death penalty. We had to keep peace in the family! If the infraction was between me and one of my siblings, I got a spanking and a scripture, generally it was Proverbs 6:16-19 Here are six things God hates, and one more that he loathes with a passion: eyes that are arrogant, a tongue that lies, hands that murder the innocent, a heart that hatches evil plots, feet that race down a wicked track, a mouth that lies under oath, a troublemaker in the family. The last line in the King James Version reads, “He that sows discord among his brothers.”  I think it is clear from this passage that we should guard our lips from speaking unwisely. Proverbs 17:9 He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. Another old saying is that you don’t have something good to say, don’t say anything at all.

Sometimes I think, when someone repeats bad or hurtful things that have been said about you, they are taking the opportunity to say things they wish to say and are hiding behind the “someone else” thing. Telling someone to keep their mouth shut against saying harsh words or repeating gossip seems to be the impossible task. My grandfather, Aram, told me that I should stop and think 10 times about something before I said it, to which I replied, “If I did that, I would never say ANYthing!” At that he just gave me a sly little smile that accomplished shutting me up.


I had a history of saying inappropriate things, like when I was 4 years old I informed a group of preacher’s wives at the South Carolina Camp meeting, that my parents were not really married! Of course they thought it was funny, not so much for me when one of them informed my parents! Maybe I felt the need for a little “center of attention” type of thing! That may be cure on a four-year old, but as you get older it isn’t funny. One wrong word out of your mouth can smash someone’s world and I would not want to be responsible for that: Ecclesiastes 10:12-13 The words of a wise person are gracious. The talk of a fool self destucts-He starts out talking nonsense and ends up spouting insanity and evil.

This coming week you may be getting together with members of your family that you don’t really care to be around, maybe one of them grates on your nerves by always “knowing more” about anything you say, or having a suggestion for how you do something, or their kid is better than your kid…just for the sake of “peace on earth, good will toward men” give it a rest, smile and remember Proverbs 15:1 A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire. I have to be careful, sometimes the thing that is nestled safely in my brain finds its way to my tongue and I don’t even know how it got there! SO, my friend, “a word to the wise is sufficient”!

Promote peace and love by saying kind words and have a very
Happy Thanksgiving while you spread love, not gossip!

4 Replies to “I’m Sorry :-(”

  1. OMG!!! How appropriate at this time for you to write about this. The holidays are a tough time and should be a memorable time for family and friend’s. I want to thank you for sharing this as I pray every day for certain people that truly need prayer in there life.
    Love you my dear friend!!


  2. Understand what you have written. I guess it should be “been there done that” as I have had a mouth full of foot more than a few times in my life. My biggest problem was controlling my temper. If words spoken to me ignited my fuse my mouth shifted into drive before my brain started to operate. Always lead to disaster. My Mother was a strict one on being sure before you spoke.. If you didn’t & made a mistake she had a way of making you wish you were born yet. I guess it can be listed as pride but I would almost rather have a whipping that say I was sorry. I didn’t get over that until I had been a Christain for quite sometime. I misunderstood something one time & spoke when I should not have. When I realized what I had done I was so ashamed that I couldn’t face the man. Yet I prayed hard & went to him. He ws most gracious about it & told me he appreciated me being a man about it. That changed me that day & it hasn’t been a problem since. The old saying “words cn kill” is very true. I thiink they are worse inside the church family than any other place. We don’t expect them & the shock sometimes cripples us. I like to clown & tease at times & it has been misunderstood a few times & people have been hurt. It makes me sick to think what I have done. No matter how many times you try & make it right it never seems to erase it from my memory & theirs. There are times I have gone looking for a hole to crawl in & stay there I have felt s


    1. I totally know exactly what you are talking about! There are just no rewind buttons, that’s the reason an “I’m sorry” is so important! 🙂


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