Commitment Keeper or Promise Breaker?

IMG_3462It’s been awhile since I talked about love, as you have probably discerned by now I am a hopeless romantic. I remember all the “first”, “last” and still waiting for the “always”… it’s just who I am. Some take love more seriously than others and when those two types happen to intermingle it always ends in tears.

There are two very different ways to look at that word. One set of words has a positive connotation, they are: The state or quality of being dedicated to a person or a cause. Synonyms: dedication, devotion, allegiance, loyalty, faithfulness, fidelity.
The other set of words not so much: An engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action: Synonyms: obligation, responsibility, duty, tie, liability.
Wow, that second set of descriptive words really makes you want to dive right in and take the plunge into relationship commitment doesn’t it? NOT!

So you are in a relationship with someone and they tell you they are very busy, very tired, working overtime, etc. I’m sure you can fill in the rest of the blanks, then just know that they are not ready to be committed to you and chances are they are already seeing, or talking, texting, thinking about at least, another person that doesn’t represent all the above negative words!

There is a song that was popular in my youth that said “Ain’t no mountain high enough, ain’t no valley low enough, ain’t no river wide enough to keep me from you…” Yeah, that’s the ticket, “ain’t no” now go back and read all the above excuses, do they still seem believable? I’m thinking not so much!

Another song, written by the Bee Gees, asks the question “And how can you mend a broken heart? How can you stop the rain from falling down? How can you stop the sun from shining? What makes the world go round?” I can’t think of a good way to do that right now as I am not a relationship therapist nor do I give advice because the things I have been through wouldn’t be the same things you are going through and the old saying “walk a mile in my shoes” is certainly very true. Unless you have been in exactly the same situation there is no way you can identify or tell me what “I should do”. This is where you have to pray for wisdom, insight, knowledge and understanding, and then look at the whole picture not just a part of it to know what you should do.

If you have problems committing to a person I have no doubt that you don’t have a committed relationship with God. He is the only One that really knows what goes on in your heart.

Psalm 34:18 “If your heart is broken, you’ll find GOD right there; if you’re kicked in the gut, he’ll help you catch your breath.”

You might be wondering what brought on this rant on commitment tonight, well just know it was seeing a broken heart up close and personal today, not mine! If you make a promise, a commitment, do your best to keep it because it shows what you are on the inside and is not a reflection on the person to whom you broke your commitment.

Happy Thanksgiving week to you! Gotta a lot of good cooking to get done!

One Reply to “Commitment Keeper or Promise Breaker?”

  1. When you make a life commitent then find out the other person isn’t there with you it is a real shock. Then no matter how hard you try things just don’t gel.There is no describing the pain one feels & there are no books to tell you what to do to keep from losing your mind. Your heart is already crushed & will never be the same again. You are at a crossroads without a map. You can stick to it & go on, throw up your hands & quit, or just withdraw into your self & exist. I found I chose the later & did all I could do to protect myself while gong through the motions. When it ended I was broken, confused & yd to be free. Little did I know it would bother me for years. It had a greater affect on me than I understood. It took me 2 yrs of hard praying to find answers I could accept. I was praying with a team over a lady who was recovering from the same thing. As I listened to her the Holy Spirit moved in my spirit telling me what to do. I had to go before the Lord & ask for His forgiveness, strenght, direction, & love. Then & only then could I be healed. A promise breaker is demon of a special kind. Never do I want to be involved again. My promises to myself, my wife & family all are based on God’s love & His presence in my life every day. I seek His face before I make any commitment or promise. I seek discernment, wisdom, & knowledge from Him to keep me on the straight & narrow path. I only want to be a blessing to all..


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