I was puzzled first time I heard the song: “Jesus use me, oh Lord, Don’t abuse me..” Of course I found out that the real words were “Oh Lord, don’t REFUSE me.” But not so strange since when I was a little girl, and my mother called me “Leenie”, when they sang “Leenie on the Everlasting Arms”, I was always embarrassed, thinking that they whole church was singing about ME! There is always, “Bringing in the Sheets”, along with Shadrag, Meshack and a Billy Goat, I promise you I thought all those things.
I have talked with you before about the game of “Gossip” and how things get misunderstood and misconstrued and the end result of a whispered phrase is totally different from how it started! So I thought about how I had simply misunderstood those lyrics and phrases, no harm done because it didn’t matter, but it’s what we, as adults, do everyday without even thinking sometimes! These stupid, cute, childish things were really what I thought I was hearing! I am sure I have told you about informing a group of minister’s wives that my parents were not really married, boy who one cost me a big old spanking; the time I locked the lady and her little girl out of the car because I didn’t want to take them to church! I was like the “little girl who had a curl (literally) right in the middle of her forehead, and when she was good, she was very, very good, but when she was bad she was HORRID!”
1 Cor. 13: 11-13 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. Now we see things imperfectly as in a cloudy mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity.All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love. Love is helping someone when they are down and need a hand-up, it is sharing your last morsel of food because you see there is hunger, whether it is physical, or spiritual food!
1 Cor. 13:3-7 Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self.Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head,Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle,Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything,Trusts God always, Always looks for the best,Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.
Now that you’ve read what love IS, let’s talk about what it’s NOT! It is not taking abuse from a person, spouse, boy/girl friend, boss, or friend (BFF or not). Abuse can be more than physical hitting, it can be ignoring you, not returning your calls because your opinion differs from theirs. It can be always expecting you to be the one that changes your plans to fit theirs, It is using you up and spitting you out when they get tired of you, and expecting you to come back as if nothing ever happened when they get bored! I’m sorry, I’m not available for that type of friendship. No one is important enough to take being treated as “less than” for any reason. We were created equal and I intend to remain that way!
I wonder if you have every had that done to you, and then I wonder, have you ever done it to God? He answers prayers, we have protection and healing, blessings on and on, then the first trial that happens, or first thing that goes wrong, we bail out of the friendship altogether! Guess what? He doesn’t like it any better than you do! Don’t pass up an opportunity to thank Him for His goodness, mercy and excellent kindness toward you! Treat God, and each other the way YOU want to be treated!
In other words, if you don’t want to be abused… oh you get the point…