Today I was talking with my daughter about a situation between two acquaintances of ours that are having a controversy. We don’t know who is right and who is not but one thing for sure is that each of them is right in their own mind! When I felt we had exhausted the subject I said, “There are two words that could solve this whole problem, and that is for one of them to say ‘I’m sorry.’”
It made me think of something that happened here in this kitchen about six years ago as I was in the kitchen cooking and preparing supper for 10 people. I heard a loud exclamation from Gabriel of, “Oh NO, I spilled my tea!” I quickly gathered a cloth to go and clean it up and I was hoping it hadn’t landed on the carpet. I am not exactly sure what happened next but it ended with his mother saying she was going to call his dad so he could have a “talk” with him! He seemed to not take that statement seriously and continued to do whatever it was that was displeasing his mother, so suddenly the call happened and I was being summoned with, “Mammy can you come here?” “Sure baby, what is it?” He put his little hands on both sides of my face as I leaned down to his level and he whispered “I accept your apology”, I didn’t want to laugh out loud, but it was a struggle, his mom said “What did you say?” He repeated it, the problem was that he was supposed to apologize to me, but it was very hard for those words to cross his eight-year-old lips and was something they had already “had the talk” about a few days before! Then he asked me a question, “Do you know what ‘apology’ means?” I answered him, “Yes” then from across the room his mom called out, “Gabe, what were you supposed to say?” He had put it off as long as he could and it finally happened, he squeezed out the words “I am sorry”. He looked so relieved it was over and asked me if I would give him a big hug! Of Course I did!
The incident was funny, made me think of “Happy Days” when the “Fonz” could never say that he was wrong! But in thinking about it, I realize that “I’m sorry” are two words that are very hard for most people to say. What is the solution?
Conduct yourself in a manner so that you never NEED to say them, easier said than done, however, I have a couple of scriptures for you to read and think about. Proverbs 15:1 “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word, stirs up anger.” It is never easy to just stand there and take it when someone is being harsh with you, is it? However we need to remember that “the eyes of the Lord are in every place, keeping watch on the evil and the good.” So when you think that God doesn’t see the things you go through, you are wrong…He sees…He knows. “A wholesome tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit”. The things we think of and let come out of our mouth makes up who we are. Go back to Philippians 4:8 “Finally brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue, and if there is anything praiseworthy-meditate on these things.”
Am I going to tell you that I am a perfect example of being constantly positive and thinking positive thoughts? No, but I AM consistently positive, meaning that whenever I catch myself sinking into the dregs of despair I do what I heard my dad say in a sermon when I was a little girl. He said: “I pick myself up by the ‘scruff’ of the neck, haul myself to the altar and give it all to the Lord!”
Gabriel was back in form with the prayer for our supper that night in which he thanked God for His good Son Jesus, and said, “I know you would like to have more time to play with Him, and thank you God that it is almost Valentine’s Day.” I wondered who he had in mind for that “special” card?
Maybe you should consider doing what my grand dad told me to do, “think about what you are going to say 10 times before you say it…if you did that you wouldn’t say much, would you? Meanwhile, practice saying, “I’m sorry”.