At my age I have seen and heard a little bit of everything in life. Year after year I sat at the Hammond Organ playing the Wedding March and listened as my father asked young couples, which seemed so much in love, to repeat their wedding vows. It always struck me that the vow says in part: “And the two shall become one flesh”, we know that if you have a child that indeed the two of you are one flesh in that child, but I always felt that it meant a lot more than that.
The other part of the ceremony that gives me pause is “For as long as we both shall live, until death do us part.” You have to know that the song I believed for myself was, “When I fall in love, it will be forever, or I’ll never fall in love.” And don’t remind me that the lyrics go on to say, “In a restless world like this is, love is ended before it’s begun…” OK back to my point: When the groom had kissed the bride I would play the Recessional and they would go happily running down the aisle and into their future. I am remembering one marriage that started just like that which ended, literally, before the flowers used as wedding decorations had died. I would say that was not an everlasting love.
In thinking about becoming “one flesh” this thought occurred to me: If a person needs a heart transplant and they are perfectly healthy with the exception of the heart, they can receive a transplant. That heart may have come from someone who died from some sickness that didn’t involve their heart or an accident and their heart was a good strong one. You would think that the good strong heart would go wonderfully in that good strong body wouldn’t you? But if the two persons are not a match, then no it doesn’t work! If it happens they aren’t a match and they don’t take anti-rejection meds (which for relationship would be good Christian counsel and a lot of prayer) then the person and the heart will die.
I think sometimes that happens in marriages where you have two wonderful people who break up and divorce. Both of them may have been good, perfect even, but not for each other, it was not a match. Real love, the kind of love that nothing in the world can come between the two of you is described in 1 Corinthians 13: Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.
Does that kind of love exist in this world today? It has existed longer than you and I, or anyone that is alive today has lived.
One of my favorite scriptures, the one that will bring tears of love and joy and hope and comfort to me is Romans 8:35-39 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
He will never let us go, He died for us, and He lives for us! When we are dirty and need a good spiritual bath, He picks us up and loves us anyway, the way you would pick up your dirty child.
This kind of understanding and love should extend to our friends and to our family. Do you want to be loved unconditionally? Then give yourself to Him, that love is love that never goes un-reciprocated!
How much should you love someone? You just have to love them “enough”, that is all you need because “enough” covers every problem and transgression the way Jesus’ blood and love covers us, completely and enough to save us and give us life eternal.
I wish for you to have enough love, and peace!