It was brought to my attention this evening that the garlic I used to make my broth for meatballs today had clung to my breath, yes it was embarrassing, I felt like a great big clove of garlic, however it made me think of this so maybe it was worth it!
Everything can be rocking along in a relationship, whether it is romantic, or just between friends when one thing happens that totally exposes a character flaw that you know you cannot live with or even be friends with. At this point you have to decide if you will remain in league with the offender and hope they change, or just get away from them altogether.
We all have flaws in our make-up but there are some things that are just too large for you to climb over, too wide to go around and too thick to tunnel through, that’s when a decision has to be made and no one can do it but you! That deed has become the defining moment of the relationship. If you don’t want to be identified with or take on the character of someone, then I would suggest that you not hang out with whoever it is! Can’t you tell who your kids are friends with by the language they use or the clothes they want to wear? Yes, you can and guess what, you are not above being influenced. There are some speakers that I refuse to listen to speak and it is not because I think I will be influenced by them, I just don’t want to take garbage into my body and I refuse to let garbage come into my soul-man thereby offending my spirit-man.
Ephesians 5:11-12 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of those things, which are done by them in secret.
I do not like confrontation so before I will fight I will just disappear, but when someone is saying something you strongly disagree with is it wrong to let these deeds or wrong teachings go by without at least saying, I don’t believe that way? We do it in other areas of life, especially politics!
2 Cor. 6:14-18 Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands? Who would think of setting up pagan idols in God’s holy Temple? But that is exactly what we are, each of us a temple in whom God lives. God himself put it this way: “I’ll live in them, move into them; I’ll be their God and they’ll be my people. So leave the corruption and compromise; leave it for good,” says God. “Don’t link up with those who will pollute you. I want you all for myself. I’ll be a Father to you; you’ll be sons and daughters to me. The Word of the Master, God.
There were two times that defining moments changed what might have been my future. Both times there was no one except God and me who saw or heard the deeds, but it absolutely ended relationships with two men that I had been dating. No one would know what happened unless I told it but my own conscience would not let me continue to even be associated with either man.
1 John 1:6-10 If we claim that we experience a shared life with him and continue to stumble around in the dark, we’re obviously lying through our teeth—we’re not living what we claim. But if we walk in the light, God himself being the light, we also experience a shared life with one another, as the sacrificed blood of Jesus, God’s Son, purges all our sin. If we claim that we’re free of sin, we’re only fooling ourselves. A claim like that is errant nonsense. On the other hand, if we admit our sins—make a clean breast of them—he won’t let us down; he’ll be true to himself. He’ll forgive our sins and purge us of all wrongdoing. If we claim that we’ve never sinned, we out-and-out contradict God—make a liar out of him. A claim like that only shows off our ignorance of God.
No one can tell you who to associate with it is a very personal decision. Carry His light high and proudly don’t let it get snuffed out!