This morning something happened that brought the phrase “Do unto others” to life for me, once again!
Every morning I go through the line at Chick Fil A and take breakfast to my daughter who works at Cumberland Christian Academy and leaves for work at 6 AM every morning. This morning I pulled into the double line and thought I had given my order before the young bearded guy in the red truck had given his so I pulled forward. He seemed a little aggressive and I wondered if I had actually cut him off. When I got to the window the order they called out was not my order but the young beard in the truck! OH NO I really had cut him off! I told the lady at the window that I wanted to pay for the guy’s breakfast in the truck behind me and handed her my debit card, she ran it and handed the card back to me, I laughed and said well I have to pay for my order now and held the card back out to her, she smiled and said, “Your breakfast has already been paid for by the car in front of you, she said to tell you to have a blessed day!” My mouth fell open, I said, “You have to be kidding me right now!” She assured me that it was true. I didn’t know when I paid for “young beard’s” breakfast that mine had already been paid for, I just did it because I felt bad at having cut in front of him in line, albeit not on purpose! Just wow!
Doing unto others and keeping promises then have been uppermost in my mind all day. So many times we make promises to people, even our own family that we never intend to keep, maybe not on purpose but sometimes we neglect to remember what we have promised. Things like, “Call me if you need me and I’ll be right there!” “You need a friend? You’ve got a friend as long as I am around”, “I love you baby there will never be anyone else like you.” That last line has probably been used more times than toilet paper and instead of cleaning up a mess it usually creates one!
I looked to see if there was a legitimate definition for the phrase “lip service” there were two! They are: Verbal expression of agreement or allegiance, unsupported by real conviction or action; hypocritical respect: and insincere support or respect expressed but not put into practice.
There are two scriptures that address this, first is Matthew 5:33-37 “And don’t say anything you don’t mean. This counsel is embedded deep in our traditions. You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, ‘I’ll pray for you,’ and never doing it, or saying, ‘God be with you,’ and not meaning it. You don’t make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no’ when you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong.”
Then in James 5:12 And since you know that he cares, let your language show it. Don’t add words like “I swear to God” to your own words. Don’t show your impatience by concocting oaths to hurry up God. Just say yes or no. Just say what is true. That way, your language can’t be used against you.
One thing that is upsetting to me as a mom and grand mom who is concerned about the feelings of my children is the way little children are used by people whether it is between divorcing parents or by someone trying to impress a single parent that has a child by getting close to the little one and then upon realizing the mom or dad of the child is not going to date you seriously or, better yet, not marry you, you dump the poor unsuspecting child. I have seen it over and over and that really makes me sick. The child doesn’t know why one more parent figure has disappeared from their life; it has to affect their self-esteem, thinking it is somehow their fault.
My children were 14 and 4 when my divorce was final, their dad was welcome to come into the home any time he could and took them out for lunch or dinner twice a week, it is a habit that still stands to this present time. What happened between us was not their fault and I didn’t want to deprive them of that father-child relationship. Children are not chattel to be moved, traded or bargained with for your convenience, period.
Matthew 19:14 But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of heaven.” Children are a treasure and should be treated as such.
Psalm 139:13-16 Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out; you formed me in my mother’s womb. I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking! Body and soul, I am marvelously made! I worship in adoration—what a creation! You know me inside and out, you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I was made, bit-by-bit, how I was sculpted from nothing into something. Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth; all the stages of my life were spread out before you. The days of my life all prepared before I’d even lived one day.
The bottom line, are the words that Jesus spoke, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you!”
We expect God to answer as soon as we call, isn’t that right? Live according to that one little statement and you will live a happier life and those around you will know that when you say, “Just call me”, you really mean it, and hey, maybe you will get your breakfast paid for next time you are behind me in the line!