OK I admit it I am a hopeless romantic. I remember my first love, the excitement of a wedding and even though it ended in divorce I am looking forward to my always with expectation and thrill of first love, it’s Déjà vu all over again, it’s just who I am. Some people take love more seriously than others and when those two types happen to intermingle it always ends in tears, I will tell you why I said that in a minute…
Commitment: There are two very different ways to look at that word. One set of words has a positive connotation, they are: The state or quality of being dedicated to a person or a cause. Synonyms: dedication, devotion, allegiance, loyalty, faithfulness, fidelity.
The other set of words not so much they are: An engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action: Synonyms: obligation, responsibility, duty, tie, liability.
Wow, that second set of descriptive words really makes you want to dive right in and take the plunge into relationship commitment doesn’t it? NOT!
So if you are in a relationship with someone who constantly tells you they are very busy, very tired, working overtime, I’m sure you can fill in the rest of the blanks, then just know that they are not ready to be committed to you and chances are they are already seeing, talking, texting, or thinking about another person that doesn’t represent all the negative words you just read in the above paragraph!
There is a song that was popular in my youth that said “Ain’t no mountain high enough, ain’t no valley low enough, ain’t no river wide enough to keep me from you…” Yeah, that’s the ticket, “ain’t no”; remember all the excuses you just read? Do they still seem believable? I’m thinking not so much!
Another song by the Bee Gees, asks the question “And how can you mend a broken heart? How can you stop the rain from falling down? How can you stop the sun from shining? What makes the world go round?” I can’t think of a good way to do that right now as I am not a relationship therapist nor do I give advice because the things I have been through wouldn’t be the same things you are going through and the old saying “walk a mile in my shoes” is certainly very true. Unless you have been in exactly the same situation there is no way you can identify or tell me what “I should do“, this is where you have to pray for wisdom, insight, knowledge and understanding, and then look at the whole picture not just a part of it to know what you should do.
If you have problems committing to a person I have no doubt that you don’t have a committed relationship with God. He is the only One that really knows what goes on in your heart.
Psalm 34:18 “If your heart is broken, you’ll find GOD right there; if you’re kicked in the gut, he’ll help you catch your breath.”
I told you I would tell you what brought on this rant about commitment tonight, it was seeing a broken heart up close and personal today, and no it wasn’t mine!
If you make a promise or make a commitment, do your best to keep it because it shows who and what you are on the inside.
I think I better quit while I’m ahead!