Has anyone ever used that line on you? Have you said it to someone? It is referred to as a “Pseudo-Compassionate” break up line. Pseudo is a word from the Greek language that means “false”. I dislike people that are fake, just be straight with me, or as the saying goes, “shoot straight from the hip”! When John the Baptist spoke about King Herod’s wife, he didn’t pull any punches and it cost him his head!
Jesus wasn’t tender with His language either! Matthew 23:33 Snakes! Reptilian sneaks! Do you think you can worm your way out of this? Never have to pay the piper? It’s on account of people like you that I send prophets and wise guides and scholars’ generation after generation—and generation after generation you treat them like dirt, greeting them with lynch mobs, hounding them with abuse. His enemies’ set about to see how they could kill Him without causing an uprising!
So what about you? How do you approach things that need to be said?
You can be honest without being mean, but you must be honest, because it is so embarrassing to find out that you have been operating under a false illusion, more embarrassing than to just hear the truth.
I Remember a time that I had given a lot of time and energy to working with a group and felt that I was an integral part of and was upset when I would find that I had “missed” practices because I felt like I had let them down. I would try harder but then find out it had happened again, I was very young, and very naïve. Long story short, there was a performance planned that I was not told about, when I heard of it I turned heaven upside down to get there, I ended up getting embarrassed and it was not an easy way to find out that I was not needed, nor wanted. Their not being willing to tell me the truth cost me a lot in hurt feelings and wounded self-esteem, which took me a long while to restore.
Proverbs 3:3-4 Don’t lose your grip on Love and Loyalty (truth). Tie them around your neck; carve their initials on your heart. Earn a reputation for living well in God’s eyes and the eyes of the people. Proverbs 12:17 Truthful witness by a good person clears the air, but liars lay down a smoke screen of deceit.
How is it with you then, are you the “it’s not you it’s me” person, or are you willing to say, “This is not working for me” and then give all the reasons.
If you think this doesn’t apply to you because you are happy in your love life, then you are missing an important point, it’s about being truthful with your friends, co-workers and people with which you may have a difference of opinion. Don’t be bullied into acting as if you accept what they think, as the truth, if you don’t feel it. Stand up and be your own person, but do it with love. Sometimes you have to “agree to disagree”!