It’s not you, it’s me!

Has anyone ever used that line on you? Have you said it to someone? It is referred to as a “Pseudo-Compassionate” break up line. Pseudo is a word from the Greek language that means “false”. I dislike people that are fake, just be straight with me, or as the saying goes, “shoot straight from the hip”! When John the Baptist spoke about King Herod’s wife, he didn’t pull any punches and it cost him his head!

Jesus wasn’t tender with His language either! Matthew 23:33 Snakes! Reptilian sneaks! Do you think you can worm your way out of this? Never have to pay the piper? It’s on account of people like you that I send prophets and wise guides and scholars’ generation after generation—and generation after generation you treat them like dirt, greeting them with lynch mobs, hounding them with abuse. His enemies’ set about to see how they could kill Him without causing an uprising!

So what about you? How do you approach things that need to be said?

You can be honest without being mean, but you must be honest, because it is so embarrassing to find out that you have been operating under a false illusion, more embarrassing than to just hear the truth.

I Remember a time that I had given a lot of time and energy to working with a group and felt that I was an integral part of and was upset when I would find that I had “missed” practices because I felt like I had let them down. I would try harder but then find out it had happened again, I was very young, and very naïve. Long story short, there was a performance planned that I was not told about, when I heard of it I turned heaven upside down to get there, I ended up getting embarrassed and it was not an easy way to find out that I was not needed, nor wanted. Their not being willing to tell me the truth cost me a lot in hurt feelings and wounded self-esteem, which took me a long while to restore.

Proverbs 3:3-4 Don’t lose your grip on Love and Loyalty (truth). Tie them around your neck; carve their initials on your heart. Earn a reputation for living well in God’s eyes and the eyes of the people. Proverbs 12:17 Truthful witness by a good person clears the air, but liars lay down a smoke screen of deceit.

How is it with you then, are you the “it’s not you it’s me” person, or are you willing to say, “This is not working for me” and then give all the reasons.

If you think this doesn’t apply to you because you are happy in your love life, then you are missing an important point, it’s about being truthful with your friends, co-workers and people with which you may have a difference of opinion. Don’t be bullied into acting as if you accept what they think, as the truth, if you don’t feel it. Stand up and be your own person, but do it with love. Sometimes you have to “agree to disagree”!

About harolene

Thank you for stopping by for a visit! If you read my thoughts you will see that I am sometimes serious, at other times sappy or funny, occasionally I am sad and sentimental, but I am always sincere! I am a single mother who raised two children, born ten years apart and different sexes so first it was bows and dolls, pretty dresses and boys! When my son was born it was rough and tumble games, baseball, soccer, wrestling and girls! I am known for my "smile" and for my default answer to any situation, "no problem", which was something I didn't realize I did until it was pointed out to me! I am a moon watcher and a star gazer. I am astounded and feel so small knowing that every creature that has ever walked the face of this earth has gazed upon that same beautiful orb that my eyes can behold on any night when the earth is not wearing her cloak of clouds. My parents have made me the person that I am. Their love, veracity in all areas of life, humor and passion for their work and each other have given me hope that my life can actually be a happy one! Chances are if you are reading this you already know all this but again, I appreciate your stopping by! While you're here hit the "Like" button for me and thanks for checking in!
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One Response to It’s not you, it’s me!

  1. Patricia Bowen says:

    MY question is what to do when you have stated your position and (the ones in question keeps pushing ???????

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