A few years ago a lady attended our church that had a very caustic personality, that was the first strike against her, but the main thing that made people want to sit on the other side of the church from her was that she reeked of garlic! You could smell her from the stage, where I was usually on the organ. I found that she crushed whole cloves of garlic every morning and put them into a drink that she made for herself for her health! If you shook hands with her, or was even near her you could smell the garlic on yourself for hours! Why? You didn’t eat it you were just near to it. Thinking of this gave me a thought!
Everything can be rocking along in a relationship, whether it is romantic, or just between friends when one thing happens that totally exposes a character flaw that you know you cannot live with or be friends with. At this point you have to decide if you will remain in league with the offender and hope they change, or just get away from them altogether.
We all have flaws in our make-up but there are some things that are just too large for you to climb over, too wide to go around and too thick to tunnel through, that’s when a decision has to be made and no one can do it but you! That deed has become the defining moment of the relationship. If you don’t want to be identified with or take on the character of someone, then I would suggest that you not hang out with whoever it is! Can’t you tell who your kids are friends with by the language they use or the clothes they want to wear? Yes, you can and guess what, you are not above being influenced. There are speakers that I refuse to listen to and it is not because I think I will be influenced by them, I just don’t want to take garbage into my body and I refuse to let garbage come into my soul-man thereby offending my spirit-man.
Ephesians 5:11-12 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of those things, which are done by them in secret.
I do not like confrontation so before I will fight I will just disappear, but when someone is saying something you strongly disagree with is it wrong to let these deeds or wrong teachings go by without at least saying, I don’t believe that way? We do it in other areas of life, especially politics!
2 Cor. 6:14-16 Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands?
There were two times that defining moments changed what might have been my future. Both times there was no one except God and me who saw what happened, but it absolutely ended relationships with two men that I had been dating. No one ever knew what happened but my own conscience would not let me continue to even be associated with either man.
No one can tell you who to associate with it is a very personal decision, however if you rub shoulders with garlic you will come away smelling like it!