Wisdom is peace-loving and courteous. It allows discussion and is willing to yield to others James 3:17
If you’re going to pull together when you’re pulled apart, you have to: Concentrate on reconciliation, not resolution. Reconciliation means to re-establish the relationship; resolution means to resolve every issue by coming to agreement on everything.
That’s simply not going to happen. I don’t care if you both love the Lord and are both deeply in love with each other there are some things you’ll never agree on because God has wired each of us differently however you can disagree without being disagreeable. That’s called wisdom. The Bible says in James 3, “Wisdom is peace-loving and courteous. It allows discussion and it is willing to yield to others.”
The Bible says it’s wise to compromise. You can have unity without uniformity. You can walk hand-in-hand without seeing eye-to-eye. You can have reconciliation without resolution of every issue.
Some of you are worn out from the conflict in your marriage, or relationship and you want to throw in the towel. Don’t do it! It is more rewarding to resolve a conflict than to dissolve a relationship.
Many conflicts could be solved overnight if you would kneel before Jesus and say, “I humble myself and humbly ask you to make this thing work. I submit my ego and my hurts to you. Jesus, do what only you can do.” Then having done all, to stand. Having said this, remember that not all conflicts in our life can be solved in this or any other way within ourselves, It is a way that the devil has of weakening our defense, that is when we go to the scripture in Ephesians 6:10-13 we are told to be strong in the lord, to put on our heavenly armor and then to stand, or withstand.
I did a word study on “withstand” and here is what it said: Withstand comes from the word anthistemi (Strong’s concordance). Does that word sound familiar? That is the word that “antihistamine” comes from. From anti, against, and histemi,to cause to stand”. This verb suggests vigorously opposing, bravely resisting, standing face-to-face against an adversary, standing your ground. Just as an antihistamine blocks histamine, antihistemitells us that with the authority and spiritual weapons granted to us we can withstand evil forces.
Bottom line, if you have done everything you can to resolve a conflict, then quit beating yourself up if nothing you have done has worked ask Jesus to help you,
Then, just STAND!