No matter what we think our motive is when we do a good deed for someone like buying material things or helping financially, it is our way of seeking approval from them in the flesh. Would I have accepted you telling me that in my younger days? That would be a NO! As I have gotten older though I realize that it would have been the truth.
Giving your heart in love is not the same however you do give it in hopes of receiving the other’s heart in return, at least that’s the way I see it. The true loves of my life are my children. They were conceived and brought into this world without any choice of their own, flesh of my flesh and bone of my bone. Even with the connection between parent and child there are times that a child will forsake an aging parent, or a child is left in garbage dumps or on someone’s doorstep. We seek out and have illicit love affairs, take drugs, drink alcohol to excess or over eat all to try and fill the hole in your heart and soul that something or someone has left there.
I watched an episode of a reality show about a woman who had weighed 716 pounds. All of the people in her group had experienced something horrible event or had a loss of some kind in their youth and found that the only control they had in their life was what they ingested. They chose food as their addiction.
It made me think about my own self and why I think or do some things that I do. The Apostle Paul said: Romans 7:16-20 “What I don’t understand about myself is that I decide one way, but then I act another, doing things I absolutely despise. So if I can’t be trusted to figure out what is best for myself and then do it, it becomes obvious that God’s command is necessary. But I need something more! For if I know the law but still can’t keep it, and if the power of sin within me keeps sabotaging my best intentions, I obviously need help! I realize that I don’t have what it takes. I can will it, but I can’t do it. I decide to do good, but I don’t really do it; I decide not to do bad, but then I do it anyway. My decisions, such as they are, don’t result in actions. Something has gone wrong deep within me and gets the better of me every time.”
Bottom line, we all have an emptiness on some level so what is the solution?
Instead of seeking a cure, fill that empty place with the Holy Spirit!