I was puzzled the first time I heard the song: “Jesus use me, oh Lord don’t abuse me,” of course I found out that the real words were “Oh Lord, don’t refuse me.” Maybe I was just egotistic when I was very young because I thought the whole church was singing about me when they sang, “Leenie on the everlasting arms” (that was my mother’s nick name for me). There is always, “Bringing in the Sheets” perfectly logical as I held the little bag of pins as mother hung our sheets out to dry in the sun, along with Shadrak, Meshack and a Billy Goat, and I promise you I thought all those things.
My misunderstanding of those lyrics did no harm because it didn’t matter, but we as adults hear things every day without even realizing that we are misunderstanding, like those stupid, childish things I thought I was hearing!
*I am sure I have told you about informing a group of minister’s wives that my parents were not really married, boy that one cost me a big old spanking and then there was the time I kept locking the car door so the lady and her little girl my dad had stopped to pick up couldn’t get in our car because I didn’t want to take them to church! I was like the “little girl that had a curl (literally) right in the middle of her forehead, and when she was good, she was very, very good, but when she was bad, she was HORRID!”
1 Cor. 13: 11-13 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. Now we see things imperfectly as in a cloudy mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely. Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.
Love is helping someone when they are down and need a hand-up, it is sharing your last morsel of food because you see there is hunger, whether it is physical, or spiritual food!
1 Cor. 13:3-7 Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.
Now that you’ve read what love is, let’s talk about what it’s not! It is not taking abuse from a person, spouse, boy/girlfriend, boss, or friend. Abuse can be more than being physically hit; it can be being ignored, not having your calls returned because your opinion differs from theirs. It can be always expecting you to be the one that changes your plans to fit theirs, It is using you up and spitting you out when they get tired of you, and expecting you to come back as if nothing ever happened when they get bored!
I’m sorry, I’m not available for that type of friendship. No one is important enough to take being treated as “less than” for any reason. We were created equal and I intend to remain that way!
I wonder if you have every had any of those things done to you, and then I wonder, have you ever done it to God? He answers prayers, we have protection and healing, blessings on and on, then when the first trial happens, or something goes wrong, we bail out of the friendship with God altogether! Guess what? He doesn’t like it any better than you do!
Pay attention and make sure you are hearing correctly, and if it is bad try to be the person that stops it instead of spreading it further! Don’t pass up an opportunity to thank Him for His goodness, mercy and excellent kindness toward you!
Treat God, and each other the way YOU want to be treated!