On loving the unlovable

ImageHere is something I found to be very interesting, the word ‘love’ is mentioned in the KJV 280 times and translated in the Message 437 times; the word ‘hate’ is mentioned in the KJV 85 times and in the message 84 times, don’t you think that is something to think about? All right, in your thinking, which one of those words is used more in our every day language today love or hate? The first time love is mentioned in the Bible it is concerning (are you sure you’re ready for this?) FOOD! I kid you not, Genesis 27:4 “And make me savory food, such as I love, and bring it to me that I may eat, that my soul may bless you before I die.” The second time was about love for a woman, Genesis 29:20 “So Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed only a few days to him because of the love he had for her.” I think that looking around in the world today, listening to commercials on TV we hear more about diet plans and gym memberships and on-line dating sites than anything besides women’s personal products, laxatives and ambulance chasing lawyers… of course closely behind that are ads for Charmin toilet paper, related? You think? Instead of saying ‘you’, or ‘we’, I am just going to get personal here… I want to be in love, feel the rush that happens when that one special person enters the room; the flush you feel creeping up your neck to your cheeks and hoping that no one notices, especially your siblings when we are young. So listening to the song “When I fall in love, it will be forever”, by the Lettermen, I can vividly remember that emotion, the very moment it happened, now that is sweet isn’t it? But can I remember the first time I felt intense hate? Matter of fact yes I can. It was the year I was 4 years old and sent to the children’s service at the Camp Meeting right here in Buford, Georgia. I won’t mention a name but the director and his wife greeted me as my mother, very pregnant with my brother, brought me to the front door of the little chapel. With mother gone I didn’t know anyone there, the man leaned down and offered to find a seat for me, his wife for some unknown reason (now remember this is he memory of a 4 year old) was very mean to me. She told me in no uncertain and mean tones, and yes I can see her beady brown eyes and curly, frizzy bangs as she towered over me, telling me to quit crying and sit down, my mother wouldn’t be back for a long time, she ended up giving me a pinch on the arm and I sat very still until mother returned for me. I never told her why I refused to go back to that children’s church and opted instead to sit on the hard benches in the sawdust of the Tabernacle. At least I could lean against her welcoming, swollen tummy and sleep during the sermon. I never forgot that woman’s face, but I also never forgot her very kind husband. A few years ago I had the chance to take my mother to a reunion of her college class, to my surprise there was the couple I have just told you about. Of course I had shared these details to my mother since I grew up so I pointed them out to her. I stayed on the other side of the room from them but I stole several glances at the woman’s old, bitter expression and her husband who had maintained his dimples, and just decided to forgive her. Later I found that she had never been able to carry a child to birth and had trouble conceiving even then. I felt glad that I had forgiven her in my heart and not caused her further pain by calling her out all these years later. About a month after that I heard that she had died. Why have I related this to you? Because someone asked the question, did I have anything to say about ‘loving the unlovable’. Well I can’t say that I loved her but I was willing to forgive which opens the path for, maybe one of you reading this, to forgive me for some unkind deed I have been guilty of toward you! God loves the ugliest, most deplorable critter and person on the face of this earth, how do I know? John 3:16 For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son that whosoever believed in Him would not die but would have everlasting life.” Forgive someone today then tell me how much better you feel!

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