In the spirit of new beginnings for the year 2014 why don’t you make a list of everything in your life that you are really unhappy about, or should I say make a list of the things in your life that make you unhappy? Are you wondering what the difference is between those two statements? The first would be things in your life that you are unhappy about that you can actually change by making an effort, such as losing or gaining weight (who in the world wants to gain?), getting better grades in your studies, doing more important projects at work, being more tidy or organized… I could use all my space making that list. The second is a little more, not vague but sensitive and may be harder to make happen, that would be situations or people in your life that make you unhappy, uncomfortable… people who generally make life unpleasant for you, and you know we have all worked with, hopefully haven’t had to live with, those people.
There is a phrase that is used mostly in church or more pointedly prayer meeting circles and that is something called the “Jezebel spirit” that tries to control your life. The way this spirit works, and it is not only in church circles but in everyday life but she hides well and is not recognized as quickly, is to first flatter you, make you feel like the King or Queen that you really are, makes you feel like you deserve to be at the top of whatever it is you do and that everyone but her is out to get you, to make you look small or weak to those around you. The story changes after she has you under her control, that is when you find out how small, without her advantageous help, you really are!
Jezebel was a Queen that was mentioned in the Bible who wanted to control everyone and especially the Prophets of God. She had four hundred and fifty prophets of the god Baal under her control and she wanted the prophets of God to do her bidding. After she had slaughtered hundreds of prophets she sent a message to the one man she really wanted to control, Elijah who was a mighty man of God, sending this threat, “So let the gods do to me, and more also, if I do not make your life as the life of one of them by tomorrow about this time.” She did scare him into running, which is ridiculous, as he had just called down fire from heaven with a mere sixty-three words! If she wanted a vineyard and the owner wouldn’t sell, that was no problem she just had him stoned to death, ask Naboth about that!
You are the only one that will answer for what you have or have not done when you face God on judgment day and if you let someone else make your life miserable and do things you know you should not do then it’s not on them, they are just acting that way the way a cat chases a mouse or a dog chases a cat, no it’s on you to make the decision for you life. Sometimes a person like that gets something on you that you are afraid they will expose, or they are close to you emotionally so they stage a tantrum like a spoiled child making you afraid to disagree with them. I think that before you allow your life to be ruined, before you have to give up relationships with your own family and friends in order to keep peace, that you should let them have their little tantrum, let them leave, let them tell what they want to tell because their tales are yesterdays news after all.
What’s my point? If you are miserable because of something you can change in your life such as habits or the way you eat, that’s something only you can do because you want to do it bad enough to sacrifice things in your life to make it happen. If you are allowing someone else in your life to make you miserable you might not be able to change it over night, but you can pray and ask God to break the chain they have around your neck and be free.
2 Timothy 1:7 “God has not given us the spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind!” Use your sound mind to decide what you will and will not put up with this year and make 2014 your year of change!