It is referred to as a “Pseudo-Compassionate” break up line. Pseudo is a word from the Greek language that means “false”.
I dislike people who are fake, just be straight with me, or as the saying goes, and “shoot straight from the hip”!
When John the Baptist spoke about King Herod’s wife, he didn’t pull any punches and it cost him his head!
Jesus wasn’t tender with His language either!
Matthew 23:33 Snakes! Reptilian sneaks! Do you think you can worm your way out of this? Never have to pay the piper? It’s on account of people like you that I send prophets and wise guides and scholars’ generation after generation—and generation after generation you treat them like dirt, greeting them with lynch mobs, hounding them with abuse.
His enemies’ set about to see how they could kill Him without causing an uprising! So let me ask you, Christian dear, how do you approach things that need to be said? You can be honest without being mean, but be honest! It is so embarrassing to find out that you have been operating under a false illusion, more embarrassing than to just hear the truth. I remember a time that I had given a lot of time and energy to working with a group. I would find that I had “missed” practices and felt so bad, I felt like I had let them down. I would try harder, and then find out it had happened again. Long story short, there was a performance planned I was not told about, when I heard of it I turned heaven upside down to get there, it was not an easy way to find out that I was not needed, nor wanted. Their not being willing to tell me the truth cost me a lot in hurt feelings and wounded self-esteem, which took me a long while to restore.
Proverbs 3:3-4 Don’t lose your grip on Love and Loyalty (truth). Tie them around your neck; carve their initials on your heart. Earn a reputation for living well in God’s eyes and the eyes of the people.
Proverbs 12:17 Truthful witness by a good person clears the air, but liars lay down a smoke screen of deceit. If you are feeling guilty about something
Proverbs 16:6 has the answer to that: Guilt is banished through love and truth; Fear of God deflects evil.
How is it with you then, are you the “it’s not you it’s me” person, or are you willing to say, “This is not working for me” and then give all the reasons why it isn’t working for you!
If you think this doesn’t apply to you because you are happy in your love life, then you are missing an important point, it’s about being truthful with your friends, co-workers and people with which you may have a difference of opinion.
Don’t be bullied into acting as if you accept what they think, as the truth, if you don’t feel it.
Stand up and be your own person, but do it with love. Sometimes you have to “agree to disagree”!
Are you being honest with God? Remember, He went to talk with Adam and Eve already knowing they had sinned and waited to see if they would try to deceive Him.
Psalm 139: 23-24 Investigate my life, O God, find out everything about me; Cross-examine and test me, get a clear picture of what I’m about; See for yourself whether I’ve done anything wrong—then guide me on the road to eternal life.
There are times you have to be truthful with yourself, looking deeply into your own heart and examining your motives in why you do the things you do. Sometimes when you do this you find you need to forgive yourself for being foolish at times, or making a bad decision about something. You have to love yourself and respect yourself before anyone else does.
If there is one thing I am sure of it is that if God ever says, “It’s not you it’s me”, He will be talking about the amount of love He has been willing to give.