There was a movie many years ago that made a certain phrase very popular, no it’s not the one that says, “You complete me”, it goes even further back than that, it was, “Love means never having to say you’re sorry”. Is that true? I guess if I were on a debating team I could take either side. If you read 1Corinthians chapter 13 and see all that love “is” you would think there would be no reason you would ever need an apology or be the cause of the need for one. However, we are flesh and live in an imperfect world with imperfect sets of circumstances and it is not easy to keep your cool at times, just guessing here, no practical experience (I hope you buy that lie). If I love you perfectly I will know you well enough to know things that will upset you and will not do anything that I know will cause you angst. On the other hand if you love me perfectly and I, by some stretch of the imagination, do that unthinkable thing that upset you then you will be willing to forgive me without my even having to apologize, you will give me the benefit of the doubt and know that I could never do anything to hurt you on purpose.
There are times that try as hard as we can it seems we never get it quite right, yes I have had those moments and they do hurt, but to quit trying to please the ones you love defeats the reason you do it, right? You do it because of love not to gain accolades for a job well done. The good thing about doing things for God is that He gives us the right to make mistakes and keep trying till we get it right.
Lamentations 3:22-23 says, God’s loyal love couldn’t have run out,
His merciful love couldn’t have dried up.
They’re created new every morning.
How great your faithfulness!
I’m sticking with God (I say it over and over).
He’s all I’ve got left.
It boggles my mind to know we are loved so much that before time began God looked beyond my faults, and sins, and loved me enough to prepare a way to bring me closer to himself, gave me a way to (Hebrews 4:16) “approach the Throne of Grace boldly so that I could obtain mercy and ask for help in my time of need”. He knows the thoughts and the intents of my heart so that when my flesh is weak and I fall flat of my face He always picks me up, dusts me off and sets my back on the road headed in the right direction.
Whether you are dealing with loved ones, your children, spouse, significant other or coming boldly before the Throne of Grace, remember this… love might not require that you say “I’m sorry” but I think it is thoughtful to show that you realize you made a mistake and the next two words should be, “Forgive me”. The response from the heart of love always answers, “I forgive”.