is commitment a bad word?

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Commitment: There are two very different ways to look at that word.

One set of words has a positive connotation, they are: The state or quality of being dedicated to a person or a cause. Synonyms: dedication, devotion, allegiance, loyalty, faithfulness, fidelity.

The other set of words not so much they are: An engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action: Synonyms: obligation, responsibility, duty, tie, liability.

Wow, that second set of descriptive words really makes you want to dive right in and take the plunge into relationship commitment, doesn’t it? 


So, if you are in a relationship with someone who constantly tells you they are very busy, very tired, working overtime, I’m sure you can fill in the rest of the blanks, then just know that they are not ready to be committed to you and chances are they are already seeing, talking, texting, or thinking about another person that doesn’t represent all the negative words you just read in the above paragraph! 

There is a song that was popular in my youth that said “Ain’t no mountain high enough, ain’t no valley low enough, ain’t no river wide enough to keep me from you…”

                 Yeah, that’s the ticket, “ain’t no”; remember all the excuses you just read? 

Do they still seem believable? I’m thinking not so much! 

Another song by the Bee Gees, asks the question “And how can you mend a broken heart? How can you stop the rain from falling down? How can you stop the sun from shining? What makes the world go round?” 

I can’t think of a good way to do that right now as I am not a relationship therapist, nor do I give advice because the things I have been through wouldn’t be the same things you are going through and the old saying “walk a mile in my shoes” is certainly very true. Unless you have been in exactly the same situation there is no way you can identify or tell me what “I should do“… 

                this is where you have to pray for wisdom, insight, knowledge and understanding…

and then look at the whole picture, not just a part of it to know what you should do. If you have problems committing to a person, I have no doubt that you don’t have a committed relationship with God. He is the only One that really knows what goes on in your heart.

Psalm 34:18 “If your heart is broken, you’ll find GOD right there; if you’re kicked in the gut, he’ll help you catch your breath.”

If you make a promise or make a commitment, do your best to keep it because it shows who and what you are on the inside.

                                        I think I better quit while I’m ahead!

2 Replies to “is commitment a bad word?”

  1. I got commitments to these babies that I didn’t bring into the world!


    This might seem like way out past left field, but bear with me a moment…

    When I was young, I got a motorcycle license and had to take the state test to get it. I had already been riding for years, but here I needed to get legal and demonstrate that I knew the rules AND how to handle the bike.

    So, I got the book on it…. of course…. The state exam would cover the material from the book.

    The book covered all the pertinent stuff alright, but it also had a certain kind of attitude toward the enterprise, one not well hidden at all. The book was so full of caution on every page that it all but came right out and demanded “DONT DO IT! MAN, YOU GOTTA BE NUTS!!!”

    It was more than a little discouraging.

    Why mention that?

    Well, because all the paperwork and hassle of becoming a foster/adoptive parent is only slightly less discouraging.


    I mean… they only want people they can trust. But then there ain’t no trust.

    My wife is an RN, in fact a baby nurse in the PICU. She also has raised babies before. Thus, she is a veritable expert and a prime candidate for the job. Almost sought after.

    Yet every month, she sits through training classes that presume she doesn’t already know CPR or first aid. Feel me yet?

    That’s just one aspect. No doubt there are SOME things she learns along the way about fire safety or so forth, but not much, and then there are all the inspections, all the paperwork and notes to fill out. Every shop using WIC? Food stamps? That kind of thing? It’s a lot of work AND humbling. Apparently, tax payers don’t trust the recipients. But not all recipients are poor and needy. Some of us are working on behalf of the state to care for the orphans and this is how the state funds some of that work!

    I think I have made that part of the point now.

    It’s an uphill thing making this commitment. And there is far more risk of pain with kids suffering brain damage from abuse and so forth than there is with the kids who got prenatal care in YOUR HOME with the help of their grandparents and the church etc…



    But then there’s Jesus.

    What can I say? It’s not like I think every minute of the day how worth it all this trouble is, because I don’t But there are times when I do. And I tell you what… You can’t help but fall in love with those little smiles and the complete vulnerable dependence they bring with them.

    Gotta run now… kids are calling…


    1. I can’t even begin to tell you how much I admire you and your wife for doing this. It’s the best job you’ll ever get so tired of doing, but not quit…Prayers for you and Mrs. X !! ❤

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