A piece of advice given to me when I was young concerning how I presented myself was, “Don’t start what you can’t keep up!” When you suddenly change your personality to please a particular person or group of people they expect you to keep it up because, “that’s who you are”, right? You go out with the date of your dreams and they like to eat raw oysters and black olives, no way on earth I could stomach either one, so to pretend to like either of those two repulsive offerings to keep him would be more embarrassing down the road when I decide I just can’t do it any more. I’ve been around long enough to see those type scenarios play out and the outcome is never a good one. If you’re not a party person don’t pretend to be a people pleaser to impress, you’ll get tired of glad-handing people you don’t care about and the mask will drop. Best to leave the mask off in the first place and just be who you are. If they like you that way then you are very blessed to find someone that you don’t have to gain approval from.
I speak from the experience of getting involved with personalities that were difficult, somehow it made me feel good to be the one person they did like, however it gets tiring to be that only person when their jealousy kicked in and I proved to be a person who really does like every body, the person who hugs necks instead of shaking hands and lands an occasional kiss on a cheek, it wasn’t well received.
When I learned to just be myself, like me or hate me, if I am being true to who I am then at least I became happier with myself. I advise you to do the same!
Let me know how that works out for you!
Now let’s go listen to Billy Joel sing the old standard, “Don’t go changing to try and please me… I want you just the way you are…”